The Virtuous Act of Quitting, Giving Up, and Moving On.

Brad Matthews personal category

There’s a stigma around quitting. We have this innate opposition to it.

It’s equated with personal failure and often viewed as a shameful act from people who’s life mantra seems to be, “if you say you’re going to do it, you had better well finish it.”

I think that’s utter rubbish.

If you decide to do something and realise you hate it, why persevere? You’ll lose energy, get frustrated, hate yourself and, pretty soon, hate life in general.

For what?

The warm fuzzy of finishing what you no longer even care about?

How absurd.

Give up, move on. Do something worthwhile with your time. Something that you enjoy. Something that makes you come alive. That makes you feel good.

Do something that you want to do.

Obligatory qualification

Sure, persevere through the hard parts, if you want the end result.

Don’t quit the second it starts to get tough.

But if your end goal changes, or if the means you’ve chosen to achieve that isn’t working for you, it is utterly senseless to struggle through it.

The opportunity cost of doing something else is enormous.

Not to mention the cost to your happiness and well being.

Shifting goals and focus as you mature, grow, and get clearer about what you want from life should have you quitting old habits, behaviours and activities.

If you’re actually living and making progress in terms of finding and doing that which most satisfies you, you’ll be dropping stuff.

You’ll be picking up other things in their place.

There’s nothing half as thickheaded as pursuing on something simply because you told yourself or someone else you would.

If it’s no longer something you want, move the fuck on and don’t for a second feel guilty about it.

This is one of the most pervasive mental traps, and I still see otherwise intelligent people falling for it.

You don’t have to tick everything off as complete. You can scribble it out and find something better. Something that you actually want to focus on and finish.

So long as abandonment is purposeful and doesn’t become habitual due to a mental complex around finishing things, it shouldn’t be avoided.

In fact, I think we should celebrate it.

It’s an opportunity to free up mental and temporal baggage and focus on what truly matters to you.

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